tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14134528.post115076643412397817..comments2022-11-08T06:34:47.549-08:00Comments on Rhymes With Drowning: Everything AfterTDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11235281016315296646noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14134528.post-1150819557084865442006-06-20T09:05:00.000-07:002006-06-20T09:05:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for your kind words, ~jam. Some...Thank you so much for your kind words, ~jam. Some days are better than others, but I find the *only* choice is to remain positive and move forward. The alternative is unacceptable.TDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11235281016315296646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14134528.post-1150781680076348962006-06-19T22:34:00.000-07:002006-06-19T22:34:00.000-07:00I find myself here several times a week now just t...I find myself here several times a week now just to read what you've written. Not so much what is written but the way it's written. It's very "a heartbreaking work of staggering genius" (if you haven't read that book i recommend it). Of course, I enjoy reading your recount of the day, or the moment as it were. <BR/>I don't know if you recall, but I brought food (gavin told me i could make anything, and did not mention allergies for which i gave him much grief) to you and Sam and the kids once. <BR/>What prompted me to comment after all this time was actually your post on the 7th where you said "is it mourning the immediate absence of my wife, or is it mourning for the old life, feeling melancholy over memories of years past?"<BR/>I have a friend, who is close to the end of his rope after a divorce following the love of his life was unfaithful. I've been talking to him for the better part of a year, guiding and helping him through his pain but we never really got to that point where the obstacle was clear.<BR/>That paragraph you wrote, stuck with me days after I read it and I shared it with him. I didn't do it in a "there are people who have suffered more" way, but I wanted to help him figure out that it likely wasn't her he missed, it was the feeling. <BR/>We talked about what that meant and he admitted that he fully blamed himself for the marriage ending. <BR/>It was like a dam breaking, if the dam were the size of a bazillion Grand Coulee dams. He's not better, but he's going to be. <BR/>So I wanted to thank you, for sharing your thoughts with the world and for having a clear mind in the midst of a hazy life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com